Growth cannot exist without space!!!!!

In True Love We Trust and Give Space!!!! 

“Give him/her space!” Your friends and your intuition have been telling you to relax and chill out. So what can you do? Do you want to learn how to give space? falling in love is the easy part, but making a relationship work requires trust and understanding way beyond what you think when you start a new relationship.Every romance must deepen or die.True love then is unselfish and unconditional. Your love celebrates your lover’s independent growth without the need for you to possess or control. If you are wondering why you should trust your lover and give him space (or her), you might ask yourself why you are in a relationship in the first place. If you are in it mainly to possess comfort, sex, money, security, social or even self-acceptance, then love is not on your agenda. You can safely forget about it and continue on your mutual path of self gratification, possession, and power struggles.

So relax, breathe, and trust your partner enough to give him (her) some time and space; some room to grow.Just ask yourself: In an ideal world, what freedoms and support would I want from a genuine true love relationship? Now, just claim and extend that freedom and support in your current relationship, to see where it might lead. Let go a bit; test the waters of trust; support your lover’s sense of freedom and enthusiasm as much as your own. Do this, and you will see your relationship heal as you both grow into more complete individuals.

Don’t compete with your partner or try to possess them. Instead, celebrate your individual strengths. Support and encourage the best within each of you.

However you choose to give your partner space, or in what form you ask your partner for this trust and freedom, know that the space you give or receive is directly proportional to your growth as a couple.

The less you try to possess your lover, the more true love you will experience. Give space and be free!

START FROM NOW!!!!!!!! 

爱很简单

Dear: 白紙黑字、白開水、簡單而不能沒有的你。

然後你一如預期的，把自己丟進了我的生活，緊接著是生命裡。你太瞭解我是怎麼樣的好強，把自己活得緊張。於是給了我太陽才有的熱度，要我放心的把自己交給你。

這一次我細細的看你，從你開車打量你，到你拿起菜單回過頭的問我想吃什麼。這些和愛情無關痛癢的細節，卻使得我更確信了彼此的關連。

原來是，我喜歡你的，從來不是你最醒目的特質。我喜歡你很單純。你很整齊。你一致地對每個人好。生活有規律，不喜歡失序。你總是很小心。

於是我可以很安心的不討好你，平實的表述自己。我們可以在從煙味酒氣的場合脫身之後，向對方歉然的笑了一下。又或者一個無所事事的晚上，兩個人在公園散著步，多半是你說話我在聽。講我們的家庭、朋友。說著要不起虛榮的生活。

我不喜歡從前那樣得意到會傷人的自己。

我對於現在的我們很滿意。彼時的快樂，一如一場營火晚會。歡樂難久留。我情願我們可以樸素而不心虛的活著，永遠能接住對方。所謂的戀人怎麼會只有絮語，而是可以什麼話都不說也有的默契。